On the topic of Entitlement

This is a tricky subject. Entitlement. Thinking about our kids being entitled brings a lot of guilt and shame back on us because we think we didn’t do enough to curb it. Or we didn’t shield them enough from all the things that drive them. Or we are mad because we ARE doing the things and they are still acting entitled! It can drive us crazy.

Here’s the thing. I don't blame our kids for being entitled. The world and everything it has to offer is continually giving them the idea that they need every new gadget and toy and piece of equipment or gear or clothing or shoe right this very second without doing anything.

With my kiddos, I’ve seen this most with screens. They want to play games on the tablet and watch TV all the time; and when we allow them to, their attitudes are far from the grateful hearts that I would expect after a privilege. 

But NOW when they come and ask me for screens I just have to ask one question for their answer. 

“Do you have tickets for that?” 

The expectation has been set and they know they cannot argue and complain their way to a different answer. If they want it badly enough, they will ask how they can help with tickets and after the tickets are spent and the screens have been watched, I am met with gratitude instead of whining. 

When I work for something, I appreciate it more. The same goes for our kids.

The Mama Systems Ticket System course walks you through exactly how to set up this system in your home so that it works for you and your people. 

Check out the Ticket System here!